Friends with Benefits After 50

As a growing number of older adults, still vital and engaged, find themselves single once again, the notion of “friends with benefits” is becoming more common among the 50+ set.  Many senior singles aren’t interested in giving up their independent life and freedom to settle down once again into a serious relationship or marriage.  But that doesn’t have to mean living a celibate existence.

Once thought to be reserved for the young, unwilling to commit themselves to a long-term, exclusive relationship, casual friendly sex among older divorced or widowed seniors is becoming more common than one might think.  But it makes sense; after living alone and becoming accustomed to calling their own shots, some men and women of a certain age aren’t interested in blending their lives with someone else.

Not everyone though, is cut out for casual dating; at any age, it can be confusing and painful if one partner wants a deeper emotional relationship than the other.  But with open discussion and honesty it can be wonderful for mature adults to enjoy added friendship benefits with someone they like and are attracted to but may never want to marry or even date.

But before jumping into bed with an ex-boyfriend at your next high school reunion or hooking up via Facebook, remember to buy condoms.  While pregnancy may no longer be a concern, older adults are not immune from sexually transmitted diseases.  In fact,  incidences of STDs is on the rise among seniors, especially those living in retirement communities where many residents are having sex with multiple partners without using protection.   According to the CDC, since 2007 the rate of syphilis among seniors has spiked by 52 per cent and chlamydia is up 32 per cent.

For more information about safe sex for seniors, follow this link to the Health in Aging safe sex tip sheet.

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  1. I like the general idea of this article. Yes, older folks are wanting to have sex without all the drama that goes with marriage. We, the older folks you are talking about, already know this. First, have you ever heard the saying that 60’s is the new 50’s. Then it goes to reason that 50’s is the new 40’s. Yet you start the article on the wrong footing. You call out 50 as being the starting point for being old. (Some 20 year old must have written this article.) I am almost 70. I am fit and can run 5 miles without getting winded, can bench press 150 lbs, have a good hard erection, as horny as ever… You get the point. This article is so shallow, so uninsightful. My problem isn’t being able and willing to pursue intimate relationships with women my own age, it’s finding older women who are also fit, like me, who are willing to date someone their own age. Too much is out there about how older men are fat, weak, passive, impotent, etc. And the only option for older women is to play the “Cougar,” and go out and find some younger stud who can Fxxx them all night long. So my point is, where can I find women my own age who haven’t bought into the “over the hill” stereotypes.

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